What is platonic love - the tension of the feelings without any hint of sexual relationships or does this term hide the friendship between the man and a woman? Can we name the friendship as something more if you can’t ever imagine your life without this feeling, if you are addict to it, but have no truck with the destructive thinking of any intimacy with the person?
I will start with the definition of the term from the dictionary: Platonic love - is a deep and spiritual connection between two individuals: within such a relationship, there does not exist any form of sexual connection or sexual elements. At the same time, this definition is a misunderstanding of the nature of the Platonic ideal of love which originally was a chaste but deep love transcending mortal life. In its original Platonic form, this love was a sublimated pederastic eroticism. Plato emphasized chastity in the case of homoerotic attraction, but suggested that recognition of beauty in a person of the same sex may still serve the aim of inspiration.
I think that it is very simple to confuse the notions of platonic love and friendship, as the last one includes affection, respect, loyalty towards each other and trust. This kind of relationship doesn’t presume sexual connection either. Well, I personally think that there is a very slight if not invisible difference between these two notions: love is something we cannot predict or control, it is something that makes your heart throbbing faster in the presence of a person, that makes you care of someone else, trust, help and, even if sexual relations do not exist, or if this feeling exist but sexual connection is impossible because of some reasons (age, sex, marriage, principle or other problems), this is still love, affection. But such feeling can be easily developed from that of friendship: I know a lot of examples when people had the same interests, they trusted and relied on each other, and after a year of some friendship they realized that they felt something more and got married.
Anyway, it doesn’t matter how we call such kind of relationships, it is just the matter of definition and personal interpretation, but this feeling is perfect for creating a family or long-term relationship.
I will start with the definition of the term from the dictionary: Platonic love - is a deep and spiritual connection between two individuals: within such a relationship, there does not exist any form of sexual connection or sexual elements. At the same time, this definition is a misunderstanding of the nature of the Platonic ideal of love which originally was a chaste but deep love transcending mortal life. In its original Platonic form, this love was a sublimated pederastic eroticism. Plato emphasized chastity in the case of homoerotic attraction, but suggested that recognition of beauty in a person of the same sex may still serve the aim of inspiration.
I think that it is very simple to confuse the notions of platonic love and friendship, as the last one includes affection, respect, loyalty towards each other and trust. This kind of relationship doesn’t presume sexual connection either. Well, I personally think that there is a very slight if not invisible difference between these two notions: love is something we cannot predict or control, it is something that makes your heart throbbing faster in the presence of a person, that makes you care of someone else, trust, help and, even if sexual relations do not exist, or if this feeling exist but sexual connection is impossible because of some reasons (age, sex, marriage, principle or other problems), this is still love, affection. But such feeling can be easily developed from that of friendship: I know a lot of examples when people had the same interests, they trusted and relied on each other, and after a year of some friendship they realized that they felt something more and got married.
Anyway, it doesn’t matter how we call such kind of relationships, it is just the matter of definition and personal interpretation, but this feeling is perfect for creating a family or long-term relationship.
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