понедельник, 23 марта 2009 г.

Platonic love or friendship?

What is platonic love - the tension of the feelings without any hint of sexual relationships or does this term hide the friendship between the man and a woman? Can we name the friendship as something more if you can’t ever imagine your life without this feeling, if you are addict to it, but have no truck with the destructive thinking of any intimacy with the person?
I will start with the definition of the term from the dictionary: Platonic love - is a deep and spiritual connection between two individuals: within such a relationship, there does not exist any form of sexual connection or sexual elements. At the same time, this definition is a misunderstanding of the nature of the Platonic ideal of love which originally was a chaste but deep love transcending mortal life. In its original Platonic form, this love was a sublimated pederastic eroticism. Plato emphasized chastity in the case of homoerotic attraction, but suggested that recognition of beauty in a person of the same sex may still serve the aim of inspiration.
I think that it is very simple to confuse the notions of platonic love and friendship, as the last one includes affection, respect, loyalty towards each other and trust. This kind of relationship doesn’t presume sexual connection either. Well, I personally think that there is a very slight if not invisible difference between these two notions: love is something we cannot predict or control, it is something that makes your heart throbbing faster in the presence of a person, that makes you care of someone else, trust, help and, even if sexual relations do not exist, or if this feeling exist but sexual connection is impossible because of some reasons (age, sex, marriage, principle or other problems), this is still love, affection. But such feeling can be easily developed from that of friendship: I know a lot of examples when people had the same interests, they trusted and relied on each other, and after a year of some friendship they realized that they felt something more and got married.
Anyway, it doesn’t matter how we call such kind of relationships, it is just the matter of definition and personal interpretation, but this feeling is perfect for creating a family or long-term relationship.

среда, 18 марта 2009 г.

Is sex for the sake of sex without any relationship commitment possible?
Is platonic love the same kind of feelings and relations as friendship?

I think that my opinion is different from the opinion of elder generation,who, especially our grandparents still think that sexual relationships can exist only after the wedding, but I persuaded and I know it from my own experience that sex doesn't always lead to establishing any kind of relationships. I think that it doesn't bound any duties to both people, if of course it hasn't caused the baby, it is just satisfaction of people's natural nessasity. And now if you are a single lady or a man there's nothing bad in finding a lover for one night.
But sometimes naive girls can mixed up just sex for one night for pleasure with feeling of sympathy.

среда, 11 марта 2009 г.

Why does Emma regret about her wedding? Have you even regreted about anything you have done?
I think that after getting married she started to think that she could have another life, full of interesting events with another man. Probably she was afraid that she had choosen the wrong man or she was afraind of starting another stage of her life where she couldn't be light-minded and absolutely free in her actions, where she should be more gron-up and responsible for another person. I think that it was her possible reaction on the streesful day.
I, personaly, try not to regret about my actions, persuading myself that what I had done was the only posiible way of acting in every particular situation. But sometimes I regret about things that I haven't done. There was a situation in my life - I was 16 and I fell in love for the first time with the boy who was elder then I was. He saw me off my house and himself suggested me to kiss, but I refused, I don't know why. I have no any reasonable explanations of this act but this is what I regret about.

вторник, 10 марта 2009 г.

Afternoon Pages

What does the parental care mean for you? Are there any words which you desire to tell to your parents but you are unable for some reasons?
Now, when I am a grown-up person I can reasonably value the role of my parents in my life. They are not only two people that taught me to speak or to walk, they are persons who helped me in everything, who supported my dreams and did their best to make my dreams come true. Of course we have different opinions, different characters and life-experience but my parents , especially my mum, have a great ability to advise me something without imposing their opinion on me.
For me parential care is support, life-experience of my parents, their love and helping hand in all situations.
It's very unusual for me to tell to my parents how much I need them and how much I love them, but I hope that they know it and I expect that one day I'll be able to do something good for them, to make even the part of their dreams come true.

понедельник, 9 марта 2009 г.

The book that taught me a lot…
To tell the truth that is the most difficult subject for me to write about as I’m not fond of reading and even if I start reading a book there are no guarantees that I will continue reading it in two weeks. Moreover, during the term it’s very hard to find time for reading books that don’t refer to our study.
Anyway, four or five years ago I had to read a lot of books from the huge list for school or for entrance examination, I can’t remember exactly now. There in the list I saw the book which is called “Dawns are quiet here” by Vasiliev. It attracted my attention as lately I had watched the film with the same name. I started reading and the book took my breath away to such an extend that I couldn’t stop reading. I can’t say that it taught me something as, hopefully, the actions in the book had nothing in common with the reality of that days, but that is, probably, the only serious book that made me empathise with the lives of the main characters, wait for the further developments of the plot and cry for the hard lives of the brave women. That book showed me the other side of the life during the war, it showed the emotions and hopes of the young women that dreamt of surviving after the war and being happy each of them in her own way. But the fate was too cruel to them and all of the young women died. The last passage where the regiment commander after the final battle wished all of them good-night made me cry a lot.
This book showed me how important the life is and how it should be appreciated. It also revealed such human qualities of nature as friendship: no matter how hard the situation is, no matter how difficult the life is it’s important to have a real, faithful friend, a person who you can rely on. Moreover, I think that the memory is very important thing and until we remember the person, he or she is alive.