I think writing is my favoirite class here at the University, because we are given a chance to express our own thoughts, to create the topics for discussion that are important for us and speak openly without being judged or misunderstood. But that is not the only value of this class. We also learn how to teach others to rack their brains in seek of new ideas, how to compose their ideas logically. Moreover, we are given the chance to evaluete the works of our groupmates, check the mistakes and share our points of view, which can be opposite, without offence from their side. I think that this classes have made us close to each other, because they give a good opportunity to know other's opinions, attitudes towards different problems.
At the very first class I was confused about the topic and actualy that confusion had a long-lasting character. I didn't know what I needed to write about and what was expected from me.
среда, 13 мая 2009 г.
понедельник, 11 мая 2009 г.
masks we wear in our life
This is a well-known fact that every person usually behaves differently in different situations or spheres of life. It is more obviously noticed when we communicate with someone at work, and then within his or her family. Usually at work we try to demonstrate others our willpower, confidence, awareness and self-sufficiency. We do it because we want to prove our knowledge, to create special desired people's attitude about us and look more serious and cleverer. But when we come home after work and start cooking for our family, clean the flat, play with children or help them to do the homework we behave differently, we change our manner of speaking, our attitude and probably traits of character. We do it because in the family we don't have to prove every moment that we are clever and confident, we don't have to be strict and hide our emotions. In the family, at home we can afford ourselves to be actually ourselves.
Unfortunately, people have created the rules of behavior, appropriate for every moment of our life, themselves. And that is exactly that set of rules that makes us wear the masks. For example, we should be polite with elder people,with those who have higher position at work, with teachers, with parents, sympathize with people's troubles, be happy during birthdays and weddings and so on and so forth.
Although it is very difficult to be ourselves and it is hard to get to know the soul of the other person, to understand and to open yourself, somehow we have got used to live with it, to change one masks to the more appropriate one and I think that this "game" helps us in many cases to hide something which is so dear for us, to hide ourselves.
Unfortunately, people have created the rules of behavior, appropriate for every moment of our life, themselves. And that is exactly that set of rules that makes us wear the masks. For example, we should be polite with elder people,with those who have higher position at work, with teachers, with parents, sympathize with people's troubles, be happy during birthdays and weddings and so on and so forth.
Although it is very difficult to be ourselves and it is hard to get to know the soul of the other person, to understand and to open yourself, somehow we have got used to live with it, to change one masks to the more appropriate one and I think that this "game" helps us in many cases to hide something which is so dear for us, to hide ourselves.
среда, 6 мая 2009 г.
living separate from parents
I have always dreamt about living along, without my parents leaving myself to my own devices. And I have never thought that in reality it is so difficult. I have never imagined that my mother does every day so many things without any help and still at the end of the day she is in the good mood ready to help us with our study or just talk to us.
Anyway, when you leave your home where everything is so dear, so habitual and aveilable every moment, you really start to appreciate the parential care. At my age my mother already had me and she was married, moreover she moved from Chelyabinsk - her native town - to Kaliningrad and lived with my father's parents, where she did all the houhold chores. And I'm astonished how she coped with all this things.
I accept leaving your parents' house like the next step of our growing up and it is so difficult to do it inwardly.
Anyway, when you leave your home where everything is so dear, so habitual and aveilable every moment, you really start to appreciate the parential care. At my age my mother already had me and she was married, moreover she moved from Chelyabinsk - her native town - to Kaliningrad and lived with my father's parents, where she did all the houhold chores. And I'm astonished how she coped with all this things.
I accept leaving your parents' house like the next step of our growing up and it is so difficult to do it inwardly.
среда, 22 апреля 2009 г.
The aim justifies the means.
I don't completely agree with this statement, as there are different aims and different ways of achivements. If you want to be rich and decide to rob a bank, for example, I don't think that this mean of achieving the desired is the best one. In this situation it is more appropriate to work as hard as it possible or win in the lotery :) Or if you want to get a promotion by downgrading your workmates it is not also the way you should behave. Unfortunately, the present economical situation makes people betray each other, steal and expose the colleagues and friends.
I can say that I am a confident person and I always invest time and effort in achieving the goal, but I also think about others, I prefer to achieve the aim without any harm to my family and friends, first of all and to myself. However, not all people do the same and I have been a victim of such things several times and I know from the first hand xperience that there's nothing pleasant in it.
Actualy, it is very pitty to realise that there are people around you who, being very kind and helpful to you, can one day betray or use you to their own benifit.
Of course, sometimes I also use people's help to get what I need but I never dissemble or betray people.
I don't completely agree with this statement, as there are different aims and different ways of achivements. If you want to be rich and decide to rob a bank, for example, I don't think that this mean of achieving the desired is the best one. In this situation it is more appropriate to work as hard as it possible or win in the lotery :) Or if you want to get a promotion by downgrading your workmates it is not also the way you should behave. Unfortunately, the present economical situation makes people betray each other, steal and expose the colleagues and friends.
I can say that I am a confident person and I always invest time and effort in achieving the goal, but I also think about others, I prefer to achieve the aim without any harm to my family and friends, first of all and to myself. However, not all people do the same and I have been a victim of such things several times and I know from the first hand xperience that there's nothing pleasant in it.
Actualy, it is very pitty to realise that there are people around you who, being very kind and helpful to you, can one day betray or use you to their own benifit.
Of course, sometimes I also use people's help to get what I need but I never dissemble or betray people.
понедельник, 6 апреля 2009 г.
If you are to set up your own business, what kind of business would it be and why?
It is difficult to imagine that I will ever have such an opportunity, but no doubts, if I had a chance I would never loose it. Actually, for me it is much more difficult to imagine such a situation because I have no idea how to organise something like that and from what to start. But I would definitely find somebody from my relatives who would share their experience in setting up a business if I had enough money for such a deal.
Well, recently a clear idea has flashed my mind - I would like to be the head of the organization that offers Languages courses. At first, I would find an office, somewhere not far from the center of the city. Then, I would make a renovation of the space, trying to create positive atmosphere in the hall, furnished with soft sofas, glass tables with up-to-date magazines above, flowers and a coffee machine, and I would arrange an atmosphere favorable for work in the classrooms (there should be three of them in order to have an opportunity for three groups to study different languages simultaneously) - round tables, comfortable chairs, blackboards, computers for the Internet excess, bookshelves with dictionaries and grammar books. While doing all the repairing work I would seek for the trained, qualified and ready for work staff.
Of course, that is a very dificult path, because you should always be aware in the new teaching techniques, new authentic books, training courses for teachers and innovations in the educational system. But that is something which is really interesting for me and to what I want to devote my time.
Even though I have small teaching experience, especially in teaching adults, but I think that I would mostly devote my courses to that particular age group. I would offer them language courses for different purposes: business language, computer language, medicine, speaking skills, etc. Nevertheless, today, hopefully, far more parents want their children to know languages, which means that in my organization there should be some days for children-groups of different ages, where they would have an opportunity to play while learning.
I want to be successful and earn a lot of money not only because I want to have expensive car or a luxury house near the sea - I want to be proud of myself and get satisfaction from what I'm doing, I want my parents to be proud of me and help them in their old-ages and I need to be sure in the future of my children, including their higher education.
Well, recently a clear idea has flashed my mind - I would like to be the head of the organization that offers Languages courses. At first, I would find an office, somewhere not far from the center of the city. Then, I would make a renovation of the space, trying to create positive atmosphere in the hall, furnished with soft sofas, glass tables with up-to-date magazines above, flowers and a coffee machine, and I would arrange an atmosphere favorable for work in the classrooms (there should be three of them in order to have an opportunity for three groups to study different languages simultaneously) - round tables, comfortable chairs, blackboards, computers for the Internet excess, bookshelves with dictionaries and grammar books. While doing all the repairing work I would seek for the trained, qualified and ready for work staff.
Of course, that is a very dificult path, because you should always be aware in the new teaching techniques, new authentic books, training courses for teachers and innovations in the educational system. But that is something which is really interesting for me and to what I want to devote my time.
Even though I have small teaching experience, especially in teaching adults, but I think that I would mostly devote my courses to that particular age group. I would offer them language courses for different purposes: business language, computer language, medicine, speaking skills, etc. Nevertheless, today, hopefully, far more parents want their children to know languages, which means that in my organization there should be some days for children-groups of different ages, where they would have an opportunity to play while learning.
I want to be successful and earn a lot of money not only because I want to have expensive car or a luxury house near the sea - I want to be proud of myself and get satisfaction from what I'm doing, I want my parents to be proud of me and help them in their old-ages and I need to be sure in the future of my children, including their higher education.
воскресенье, 5 апреля 2009 г.
To be or not to be: head over heels in love or rational love?
My opinion concerning this question is always changing depending on my mood. When I was head over heels in love, which was just once in my life, I didn't control my behavior, my actions, sometimes I was rude with others and it was extremely difficult to overcome this condition. I thought that this is the only way love can exist and I didn't want it ever to repeat. But now, generaly, I'm convinced that love should be rational.I think you may only create firm relationships, a family when your mind is clear from chemical reactions caused by love. It doesn't mean that the marriage is just a cold count but both people should be responsible for that decision, they should be aware that they will be able to live peacefully together, that they are ready to live through thick and thin. In case of overwhelming feeling of passion which sometimes can be confused with love, the relationships can be destroyed by troubles.
понедельник, 23 марта 2009 г.
Platonic love or friendship?
What is platonic love - the tension of the feelings without any hint of sexual relationships or does this term hide the friendship between the man and a woman? Can we name the friendship as something more if you can’t ever imagine your life without this feeling, if you are addict to it, but have no truck with the destructive thinking of any intimacy with the person?
I will start with the definition of the term from the dictionary: Platonic love - is a deep and spiritual connection between two individuals: within such a relationship, there does not exist any form of sexual connection or sexual elements. At the same time, this definition is a misunderstanding of the nature of the Platonic ideal of love which originally was a chaste but deep love transcending mortal life. In its original Platonic form, this love was a sublimated pederastic eroticism. Plato emphasized chastity in the case of homoerotic attraction, but suggested that recognition of beauty in a person of the same sex may still serve the aim of inspiration.
I think that it is very simple to confuse the notions of platonic love and friendship, as the last one includes affection, respect, loyalty towards each other and trust. This kind of relationship doesn’t presume sexual connection either. Well, I personally think that there is a very slight if not invisible difference between these two notions: love is something we cannot predict or control, it is something that makes your heart throbbing faster in the presence of a person, that makes you care of someone else, trust, help and, even if sexual relations do not exist, or if this feeling exist but sexual connection is impossible because of some reasons (age, sex, marriage, principle or other problems), this is still love, affection. But such feeling can be easily developed from that of friendship: I know a lot of examples when people had the same interests, they trusted and relied on each other, and after a year of some friendship they realized that they felt something more and got married.
Anyway, it doesn’t matter how we call such kind of relationships, it is just the matter of definition and personal interpretation, but this feeling is perfect for creating a family or long-term relationship.
I will start with the definition of the term from the dictionary: Platonic love - is a deep and spiritual connection between two individuals: within such a relationship, there does not exist any form of sexual connection or sexual elements. At the same time, this definition is a misunderstanding of the nature of the Platonic ideal of love which originally was a chaste but deep love transcending mortal life. In its original Platonic form, this love was a sublimated pederastic eroticism. Plato emphasized chastity in the case of homoerotic attraction, but suggested that recognition of beauty in a person of the same sex may still serve the aim of inspiration.
I think that it is very simple to confuse the notions of platonic love and friendship, as the last one includes affection, respect, loyalty towards each other and trust. This kind of relationship doesn’t presume sexual connection either. Well, I personally think that there is a very slight if not invisible difference between these two notions: love is something we cannot predict or control, it is something that makes your heart throbbing faster in the presence of a person, that makes you care of someone else, trust, help and, even if sexual relations do not exist, or if this feeling exist but sexual connection is impossible because of some reasons (age, sex, marriage, principle or other problems), this is still love, affection. But such feeling can be easily developed from that of friendship: I know a lot of examples when people had the same interests, they trusted and relied on each other, and after a year of some friendship they realized that they felt something more and got married.
Anyway, it doesn’t matter how we call such kind of relationships, it is just the matter of definition and personal interpretation, but this feeling is perfect for creating a family or long-term relationship.
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